Archive for November, 2009

How Awesome DJs Prepare for Your Wedding

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Just how good your wedding DJ will be is directly proportional to how well prepared he is.  His great song spinning at your party represents the final six hours of multiple hours of behind-the-scenes preparation.  A professional DJ gets ready for your Big Day by understanding exactly what it is you want.  He taps into your dream by asking specific questions about the many details of your wedding reception.   As he learns about your plans, he defines his role in the “Big Picture” and makes certain you understand the scope of his responsibilities, too.   When a Bride and her DJ are on the same page, they can re-write the book on fantastic weddings.kurt1

Great DJs Listen to YOU

In addition to detailed conversations about your wedding plans, agenda and music favorites, a truly awesome DJ will closely listen to your instructions and make sure he understands your every wish.  Great DJs realize that you have spent months planning the perfect night; and you are trusting him with the incredible responsibility of making it flow for you.  Professional DJs will be well prepared on your wedding night with your detailed plan and the ability to execute it flawlessly.

Professional DJs Practice Formal Announcements

Professional DJs & Master’s of Ceremonies take the responsibility of your formal announcements seriously; taking great care in pronouncing the names of your Bridal Party and family members correctly.  There’s nothing worse than being at a great party with your intimate friends and closest relatives and hearing your DJ, who is supposed to be part of your inner circle, mispronounce their names.  It immediately brands him as a stranger and an amateur.  A great DJ will practice his announcements and his pronunciation several times a day, everyday leading up to your wedding day, until any names sound just as natural to guests’ ears as when their best friends say them.img_0748

Pro DJs Bring All of Your Requested Music

If your DJ is a professional, he knows that there is never, EVER an excuse for not having the Bride’s and Groom’s favorite songs to play at their wedding reception. However, it’s not enough to have the right song; a great DJ also finds the right artist.  Any DJ being paid to spin songs should create custom playlists and CDs based on your favorites and his knowledge of songs that make a party buzz.  A professional DJ performs quality control by listening to all custom CDs before bringing them to your reception.

Considerate DJs Call the Hall

A good DJ is always thinking ahead, and an important part of his checklist includes contacting the hall before the Big Day to inquire when the doors will be open for sound system set-up and take-down.  He also asks where he may unload, which door to use, where he can park, which elevator or set of stairs to take, and what the hall’s rules might be.

Smart DJs Always Never Assumeimg_3727

A competent DJ never assumes he knows where he’s going!  He always asks for directions and brings a map with him to the reception hall.  In metro Detroit, an inexperienced or uninformed DJ, for example, could easily mistake Barrister House with Barrister Gardens, as both banquet halls are on Harper Avenue in Saint Clair Shores.  This sounds elementary, but you’d be surprised by how many amateur DJs show up to events late because they don’t know exactly where they are going.

Conscientious DJs Test Their Gear

Professional DJs arrive at least 1 ½ hours before the event begins to unload his equipment and set-up his sound system, which has been thoroughly tested prior to his arrival.  An awesome DJ takes his time adjusting his sound levels, checking his microphones, and positioning speakers to take advantage of the room’s acoustics.  For outdoor events, the sound is adjusted to the size of the tent and the changing conditions of the weather.  Should any component of his sound system fail, the awesome DJ always has a back-up system set-up ready to play.  All DJs neatly secure their power cords to the floor or ground in consideration of others.

Professional DJs are Poised

Common sense tells us that if guests at a party are dressed in their best, then vendors (including DJs) ought to follow suit.  Professional DJs wear freshly-laundered and pressed tuxedos with crisp, clean shirts.  Their personal grooming is impeccable, and they appear well-rested and relaxed.  They arrive in plenty of time to set up equipment, change their clothes, and spin some cocktail music as guests enter the hall. They are relaxed and in-control at all times, due to their diligence and proper preparation.

Caring DJs Create an Onsite Teamkurt2

One essential duty often overlooked by amateur DJs is synchronizing their efforts with those of the hall staff, wedding photographers and videographers.  An experienced DJ knows that any deviation in the evening’s agenda will directly impact the bride & grooms wishes.  Logistics and timing are just as important to photographers and food service staff as they are to DJs.  By forming a team with these vendors, the DJ leaves less to chance and brings much more to your table than his ability to spin a good song.

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Let the Scanning Begin

Saturday, November 28th, 2009

So, yesterday was Black  Friday.  To me it is more about sleeping off all the turkey and catching up on the highlights from yesterday’s game, but for most women, including my wife Dani, its about shopping.  Everyone is getting up early, just to get trampled by the more zealous women hurdling herself at the sale rack.  To each their own, right?

To tie black Friday into the wedding world I’ve outlined a few tips for starting your wedding registry. This is one gift list that won’t leave you disbelieving in Santa.

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Registering for shower and wedding gifts needs to be at the top of your list. Start right away.  You don’t have to finish, but give some ideas to those guests who have been dieing for you to tie the knot so they could buy you that mixer they have been raving about.

Team Up
That’s right: recruiting.  Your “soon-to-be” needs to be in on it. It is for him too.  If he’s not gun ho about it, have him go to one store with you then grab the girls.  The mom’s would love to help.

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People know that weddings are coming later and later in life, and you probably already have the spatulas you always wanted.  Most major stores have gift registries.  You know he’ll want a BBQ, why not throw it on the list. You can think electronics and outdoor  lawn supplies.

Stay Real
That scanner is a powerful thing, but just because that crystal lamp shines beneath those fluorescent lights doesn’t mean it will fit in with his mounted game collection. Choose things that fit with your lifestyle and needs.  Just because it is tradition to have a big punch bowl doesn’t mean you will actually use it.

Fitting the budgetswedding-registry1
Your guest will come from a wide variety of bank accounts and they all want to give you the perfect gift. Make sure you keep plenty of items under a range of prices: under $50, $75, $100, ect.  Your parents’ friends don’t want to buy you 200 wash clothes, and your college buddies don’t want to empty their bank accounts just so they can check something off the list.

Use the Services
Use automatic updates.  This lets you know what’s coming (!!) and lets your guests know what you still need.  Remember to add items if the list is getting low.  This lets everyone buy a gift that they want, not just the leftovers. In-store gift cards are an idea too. Perfect for those after thought items that you just need.  Although it can be difficult to ask for cash on the rocks, ask some close family or friends to spread the word.

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I’m thankful for

Thursday, November 26th, 2009

jesus-crossMy healthy family.  My wonderful wife.  Our amazing daughters, Bailey & Ella.  My loving mom.  Great friends.  Kick-ass employees.  Awesome clients.  Fantastic industry friends.  A loving and forgivideer1ng God.   Love.  America.  2 Lions wins.  Deer season.  The internet.  Clean water.  Netflix.  Freedom.  Home.  Ford trucks.  Sunrises & sunsets.  61” of High-Definition Bliss (TV).  Sunshine.  kid_rock4-seasons.  Music.  Oberon. Electricity.  Good teachers. The smell of fresh cut grass.  Our military men & women.  Unlimited opportunities.  Napoleon Hill.  WRIF.  Largemouth Bass.  Traverse City.  Jesus Christ.  Justice.  Great neighbors.  Health.  Kid Rock.   Firefighters & honest cops.  Buffalo Wild Wings.  Facebook.  Bon fires.  Hospice Nurses.  Twizzlers.  Seth Godin.  Forgiveness. lions-blog Sleep number bed.  Hot showers.  Daily meals.  iPhone.  Toothbrushes (try going a day without one!).  Nice people.  Fresh air.  Laughter.  Jeans.  Kindness. You.

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

Mike

Meet the Parents: Holiday Edition

Wednesday, November 25th, 2009

Thanksgiving is almost here and I thought this was a great time to talk to our new couples. You and your significant other may be making the big leap to combining holidays and the nervous excitement is building.  Follow these 5 tips and you are guaranteed to be a regular at the holiday dinner table.

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Before you set off on your holiday debut with the inlaws (or soon to be inlaws), you want to make sure you ask your significant other for the inside scoop on the fam. At this stage in your relationship you probably know the basics, but dig a little deeper so conversation comes easily, you don’t really want to be dealing with those awkward silences.  Ask about any traditions, personalities, dos and don’ts.

A gift to share

Once you’re caught up in the family gossip, you’ll want to ask your better half for help finding your hostess a gift, preferably one the entire family can enjoy or a dish to pass. Assorted gift baskets with wines to share, goodies from your home town, or a skin care basket are always a favorite and will ensure that you start off on the right foot.

P’s and Q’s
Just because you feel like family this holiday season doesn’t mean your manners should. Remember the basics: Always say please and thank you, offer to help whenever possible, try to get up a littler earlier then usual to participate in any family outings, and keep your space neat! This includes making your bed or the couch in the morning and not hogging the bathroom.
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Bonding
You’ve covered the basics with manors and gifts, but now is the time to jump in with two feet. They’ll notice your effort and appreciate the extra helping hand, but they’ll grow to love you even more when you join in the annual family Scrabble tournament, tossing the football, or going on an outing.

Goodbyes
Love it or hate, the celebration will come to an end. Don’t forget to thank your hosts and tell them how you had such an amazing time. Be sure to send a thank you note in the mail when you get back home.  The added thanks and praise will remind them how much they loved having you.

Does Size Really Matter?

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009

In the world of weddings, it seems that the bigger the better.  Television shows like  Bridezilla and My Fair Wedding bring over the top celebrations right into our homes, but is this what every bride wants?

Celebrities are known for over-the-top everything, especially weddings, but a new trend seems to be catching on: the small, private wedding.  For example, this past Thursday, NFL star Tom Brady wed Victoria Secret Model, Gisele Bundchen.  They opted for a private ceremony with only their parents and Brady’s young son present.

tombrady1“We went back to the house and I barbecued aged New York strips. We had champagne, a cake, some ice cream. It was a great night. I think you always have this idea that weddings need to be 200 people and you invite everybody, and I’m all for it if people want to do that, but I think there was really something special about just having our parents there.”

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Ellen DeGeneres who also wed in a small ceremony said, “I truly believe people get carried away with the volume of the wedding that they don’t enjoy the purpose of the wedding.”

Sounds romantic and intimate, but I think I would miss having friends and extended family present.

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10 Mistakes to Avoid when Planning your Wedding Reception

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

Your wedding day is a time of celebration with light-hearted, good times that create happy memories.   Above all, the day is supposed to be fun. bridedip

The less stress you feel on your big day, the more fun you’ll have.  Great planning helps you avoid forgetting important details.  Avoid these stumbling blocks that threaten to ruin your happy day:

1.  Not prioritizing your budget on the important things.  The banquet is over, and now the party wedding-budget-6begins.  If the majority of your reception time will be spent listening to music and dancing, it makes sense to allocate a proportionate amount of your budget to the vendor responsible for your entertainment.  Whether it’s a band or a DJ, the key idea here is QUALITY.

2.  Not communicating with your vendors.
Have a thorough conversation with all of your vendors, and let them know EXACTLY what you expect.  Don’t assume that, because they are professionals with years of experience, they automatically know what you want.  Each bride’s vision is different.  Vendors want to avoid disappointing you, so share the details of your dream with them from the beginning.

3.  Not communicating your needs and expectations with your bridal party. Let each person in your bridal party know, prior to your wedding day, where they are supposed to be and when.  Important moments at your reception can’t be rehearsed, so prepare a timetable for your bridal party that includes the Grand Entrance, speeches and toasts, bridal dances and any planned photo opportunities.  They will be grateful for your organization.

4.  Waiting until the last minute.  Finish everything on your checklist at least two days before your wedding.  You don’t want to be scribbling place cards at 2 a.m. on your wedding day.  Give yourself and your groom a task-free day or two before the wedding to relax and rejuvenate.
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5.  Having too much to drink early in the day or the night before. Not only is it a good idea to avoid alcohol until the final party hours, it’s best to stay hydrated by drinking water or other non-alcoholic beverages.  If you can’t resist a good nip, be sure to eat something.

6.  Spending too much time taking pictures. There are the photographs of special moments you MUST have, pictures of spontaneous moments that are FUN to have, and staged photos that become a nuisance.  Don’t be afraid to say NO to your photographer when you’ve had enough.

7.  Losing your perspective
.  Keep your mind on what the day is about, and on the things and people that are really important to you.  Don’t get bogged down in so many details that you forget to have FUN!  If something goes wrong, try your best to take deep breaths and think about the big picture.  Don’t let the little things that might go wrong ruin your night.  Above all, keep your sense of humor!

8.  Getting stressed or overwhelmed.  Eat! Talk! Dance! Have Fun! Keep things simple.  After you’ve greeted your guests, let them find you if they wish to visit.  stressed_bride

9.  Not planning an exit strategy.  Assign end-of-the-night tasks to others you trust, so you can leave unburdened.  Final duties might include gathering gifts and transporting them “home,” paying the hall, and removing decorations — including flowers, centerpieces and other wedding notions.

10.  Immediately leaving on your honeymoon.  Try not to plan a 6 a.m. departure the day after your wedding.  Give yourselves a day to recuperate and get your things together.  Better yet, go back to work for a week before leaving on your honeymoon.

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How to Avoid Awkward Music Moments

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

I’ve been DJing for almost 20 years and I can honestly tell you there are very few things that have stayed the same. The only ones I can think of now can be summed up into three facts. Fact number one: Everyone likes a good beat. Fact number two: Everyone likes a catchy chorus. Fact number three: Most people don’t know half of the words to even their favorite song.bigshower2

All of these points are truly harmless, especially when you are only rocking out in your car or shower; but when your music tastes go public - like at your wedding reception- that’s when its time to start reviewing your favorites.

It is all too common that couples pick their favorite songs to be played at their wedding reception without considering that the lyrics may not go along perfectly with the theme.  Here is a new song I have seen popping up a recent weddings: “Wedding Dress,” by Matt Nathanson.

This song has a great beat, soft voice and is catchy; BUT it is the exact opposite of what you want going on at your wedding.  It’s about a groom regretting his marriage at the ceremony.  I would recommend skipping this song.

Here are other songs you should be sure to keep from sneaking into your reception playlist.

  • Every Breath You Take – Police (Stalker anyone?)
  • I will Always Love You – Dolly Parton/ Whitney Houston (It’s about a break up.)
  • Lips of an Angel – Hinder (Please, no talk about cheating.)
  • My Heart Will Go On – Celine Dion (She’s singing the song to her dead boyfriend.)
  • Tears in Heaven – Eric Clapton (Yet another death song.)
  • White Wedding – Billy Idol (The song is about hating his sister’s fiancé.)
  • Love Stinks, You Gave Love A Bad Name, Tainted Love (all self explanatory.)

To avoid playing songs that aren’t perfect for you day: review the lyrics to your must play list, only choose songs that are appropriate in language and topic, and trust your DJ to take care of the rest.

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8 Lies about Wedding Entertainment

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

Professional wedding entertainers know that there are many false beliefs about what is needed (or not) to create a successful party atmosphere at your reception.  Let’s debunk a few of the more common misconceptions about wedding entertainment…

  1. Any DJ will do.  This is like saying any dress will do, or any photographer, etc.  Hiring the best wedding entertainer is important when your party’s ambiance, energy and success depend on his ability to be a greatcheesydj1 emcee, coordinator, DJ, and predictor of an audience’s mood & tastes.   A great wedding DJ constantly thinks on his feet and is able to provide the best music for the moment, has a professional attitude and offers years of experience entertaining at weddings.
  2. Hire a friend to DJ your wedding. Friends don’t let friends hire them to DJ their wedding!  Unless he is a professional wedding DJ, a friend will be more inclined to participate in your party than work to make the evening fun for others.  If you hire a friend, it’s important to have a signed contract for services stipulating his arrival, setup and departure times; appropriate attire; responsibilities as a DJ; which songs to play; how much drink he may enjoy (none, preferably!); and many other details that only a professional can anticipate.
  3. A band is better than a DJ. 20 years ago, a band was the preferred wedding entertainment choice.  Not any more!  A band needs extra time to set up, requires time between songs to tune, will take several breaks and they cost a lot more than a DJ.  Plus, people like to dance to familiar music.  Hire a cover band and it’s still not the stryperoriginal, recorded versions of the music.  A great DJ will have a repertoire of 78,000+/- songs to enable him to switch between music genres…or stop in the middle of a song that isn’t working.  A wedding DJ is a better Master of Ceremonies because he works closely with the bride and groom; knows their timeline; and coordinates the night’s events with other vendors in attendance.  Most wedding bands say they will do this, but often fall short of the mark on your wedding day.
  4. An iPod works just as well as a DJ. This is the one misconception that could ruin more weddings than any other.  This “craze” will quickly disappear once enough people witness first-hand how bad of an idea this is.  See if your iPod can do what a professional wedding DJ does for you: Plays just the right song at just the right time. Plays request.  Knows the best songs from any genre.  Makes announcements for you. Acts as wedding coordinator.  Gets people at your party involved. Supplies the music, sound equipment and lighting
  5. Don’t play new music until the older people leave. First off, this will frustrate your younger guests.  Plus, “older” people today were around during the birth of rock and roll in the 1950s. They lived through the counter-cultural revolution of the sixties.  They won’t leave your party unless you forget to play songs from their era, too.  An experienced wedding DJ keeps everyone happy by spinning a mix of music he knows will dancing_533appeal to all generations.   Additionally, great DJs will keep the volume of the music at a reasonable level, so all guests can enjoy conversation.
  6. We need a “party motivator”.  Games and gimmicks aren’t time worn, but they have worn out their welcome.  There’s no need to put on silly costumes, throw around inflatable toys or drag unwilling participants to your dance floor in order to crank up the party.  Experienced wedding entertainers know how to motivate your guests to participate without being cheesy or obnoxious — by spinning great music in a way that’s classy and fun.
  7. I don’t want “typical” wedding music. “Typical” wedding songs are often played at weddings for a reason… people like them!  Such standards will energize your guests and will get them on the dance floor.  If there are certain songs you simply refuse to include, that’s fine…but don’t take too many tried-and-true dance songs off your play list.  Believe it or not, someone that you invited  will be waiting to hear “Celebration” (it’s true!).  The bottom line is that some groups will dance to more traditional music than others; so give your DJ the flexibility to play the best songs for your party.hokey-pokey-print
  8. You “have to” play the Chicken Dance, (and other cheesy songs).  Not true!  The Macarena, Chicken Dance, Hokey-Pokey and other cheesy songs don’t have to be played at your wedding in order for it to be fun.  In fact, it is rare that a great DJ will play these without it being a request from the bride or groom

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Inviting Children to Your Wedding Reception

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

It is a privilege, not a right, for guests to bring their children to a friend or family member’s wedding.  You and your groom are free to decide whether or not to include children among your invited guests.  Before making your decision, consider the feelings of your big and little guests, and then weigh some of the information and options listed here.kidsatwedding
What a child thinks. Weddings, as seen through the eyes of small children, are stuffy, formal affairs that are excruciatingly long.  How many times have you seen yawning or napping little ones at friends’ weddings?

Picture yourself as a six-year-old
.  You’re dressed in your best clothes, forced to sit quietly in one place while the bride and groom say things to each other you don’t understand, and then made to sit again during a long meal in a big room with a bunch of adults.  There are all sorts of enticing opportunities to play tag, hide-and-seek, or I Spy, but your parents won’t let you.
What’s a kid to do? Play with the food on her plate.  Eat whatever candy she can find in the wedding favors.  Lean on the back of her mother’s chair while sucking on her fingers, still sticky from cake frosting.  Jump up and down on the chair rungs when her mother isn’t paying attention to her.  Mostly, what a kid does is come up with great ideas to relieve the boredom and have fun, (by running, yelling and bumping into people), and listen to her parents tell her that she cannot do them.kidatwedding
What the parents think. Parents may or may not be relieved when they discover that their children aren’t invited.  Most will understand and welcome the chance for an adult night out.  Other parents are going to be offended.  They view weddings as family affairs and resent having to find and pay a sitter.  You can’t please everyone, so make whatever decision is comfortable for you.
Pros of inviting children.
•  Parents will appreciate not having to find and pay a sitter.
•  No ill will is created among families because children aren’t invited.
•  The party will be a family affair, and most grandparents enjoy this tradition.
•   When other children are present, it provides a social outing for them, too.

Cons of including children.
•  If they are bored they may misbehave and upset the good time of others.
•  Kids need a special menu.
•  You may need to hire a sitter or two to entertain the kids, so the adults can
mingle and dance.
•  Short activities for kids should be planned to keep them occupied and out of
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Inviting certain children. You may choose to invite only those children of a certain age, for instance, aged 12 and older.  Or, you may want to invite children of family members only.  Whatever you decide, make certain that you have a personal conversation with each family invited about the parameters of your invitation.  Don’t let the invitation speak for itself or wait until the wedding day to try to explain why some children are present, when others weren’t invited.
What to do when they’re invited. Babies and toddlers should be left at home.  You might offer to arrange for a couple of teenagers to sit with children at the reception, (at the parents’ expense), or arrange for a mature, group sitter(s) in someone’s home.  One sitter should be hired for every four or five children.Kids enjoy dancing, so be sure to request that your DJ play a song or two in their honor.Ask your caterer about meals for children.  Kids under 12 adore hamburgers, hot dogs and chicken strips.  Keep it simple. kidstables
Seat children together, when possible, in one corner of the reception hall.  If they make a lot of noise, it won’t matter as much to your other guests.  They may enjoy the chance to talk and play and form friendships with other kids.
How to address your invitations. Most etiquette mavens will tell you that it is inappropriate to write “No Children, please” on your invitations.  It might be possible to communicate this idea by only writing parents’ names on the envelopes, but don’t count on it.  Again, speak to each invited family and tell them what your wishes are.  There’s no need for explanations, but they do need to understand who is invited and who is not.

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To Toss or Not to Toss?

Monday, November 16th, 2009

Like many traditions, the bouquet and garter toss, are slowly being replaced by more all-inclusive wedding reception activities.   In the last five years, wedding professionals have noted a decline in these long-standing traditions and estimate the frequency of bouquet and garter tosses during wedding receptions today to be approximately 50 percent.

Whether you choose to include these traditions or “toss” them is completely up to you.  Singling out the singles bouquet-tosswith bouquet and garter rituals isn’t as relevant today, when many wait longer to marry and some choose to remain single.   A Bride and Groom may prefer to spend their party moments visiting with beloved guests and dancing to the music, instead.

Whatever you decide, the a professional DJ can share their experiences and help you plan your party time activities.  If you’re still undecided after reading these lists of Pros and Cons, your DJ can suggest updated versions of bouquet and garter toss traditions that will satisfy guests of all generations.

Where did the bouquet and garter toss originate?

In the 14th century, it was customary for the Groom to remove the Bride’s garter and throw it toward the single men in attendance.  Legend said that whoever caught the garter would be the next to marry.  At the often-rowdy party following the wedding, a few drunk and impatient men would occasionally try to remove the Bride’s garter before the Groom had his opportunity.  At those times, we can only hope the Groom intervened and rescued his Bride from the boisterous crowd.  In light of this, perhaps seeing who would marry next by having the Bride toss her bridal bouquet toward the single women was less troublesome!

Pros of hosting a bouquet and garter toss

  1. It’s Tradition. Some in attendance are waiting for this moment during your reception.  The bouquet toss and, to a lesser extent, the garter toss are benchmarks for the older generations.  When a tradition is observed, their expectation is fulfilled and a certain comfort level borne of familiarity is reached.   bouquet_toss-1023x646
  2. Guests get involved. If plenty of singles are at your party, the event generates suspense for your wedding guests.  If some of the singles are well-mannered but rowdy friends, you can expect great enjoyment and fun.  Hosting the toss in the midst of your dance party is a great way to get singles to meet on the dance floor.  All guests want to feel the thrill of the moment, and a great Master of Ceremonies will include married couples in the event, too.  Professional DJs draw on their experience and follow simple techniques that engage your guests and elevate the excitement of your reception’s most memorable moments.
  3. Great photo and video opportunities are made.  You can expect great shots of your garter1friends wearing spontaneous smiles and their Sunday best.  The camera will capture their laughter and looks of surprise, embarrassment and goofiness, as they carry out the traditions of the bouquet and garter toss.
  4. Bouquet and garter tosses can be fun.  If the singles at your reception are in the spirit of the moment, then these rituals that bring people together will be fun and exciting for you and your guests.

Cons of hosting a bouquet and garter toss

  1. Many guests may not want to participate. It’s customary for the Bride to help gather the singles in attendance and invite them to get involved in the bouquet and garter toss.  If singles are reluctant to participate, but go along to be polite to the Bride, the events won’t be fun for them and may make them uncomfortable, a feeling which is sure to spread among the guests watching them.
  2. There’s less party time. If your dance floor is rockin’, why screech the party to a halt? Even small traditions, like the garter and bouquet toss, take a little time to organize.  You can expect to spend 10 to 12 minutes gathering the participants, and watching rowdier singles prolong their moments in the spotlight.  While garter_toss_2others are distracted, guests who aren’t caught up in the moment may take this opportunity to leave.
  3. Do you really want a picture of this, anyway? Since the bouquet and garter toss are mostly staged events, we all know what to expect, with certain variations on the old theme.
  4. Some guests may act inappropriately.  Why take the chance of subjecting your guests to potentially ill-advised and outlandish actions?

Putting a new spin on the bouquet and garter toss

Enjoy an Anniversary Dance. This fun variation on the usual theme is a suspenseful event that invites married couples of all ages to be part of an “elimination” dance that ends with a nice surprise.

All married couples are invited to the dance floor for the first song.  Those married less than 6 months are asked to step down for the next dance.  Those married less than a year are asked to bow out, followed by those married 3 years, 5 years, and so on, until the last couple on the dance floor is the one that has been married the longest – which is sometimes 50 or 60 years!  The Master of Ceremonies steps onto the floor to congratulate them and to ask for their sage advice on behalf of the new Bride and Groom.  In return for their words of wisdom, the Bride and Groom offer the older couple the Bride’s bouquet.

It’s Your Party.  Do What You Want.

Depending on your guests, the bouquet and garter toss can be a fun event.  However, you will find that hardly anyone will miss it if you choose to skip them.  It’s totally up to you, it is YOUR wedding reception!

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